"To be loved like that makes all the difference. It does not lessen the terror of the fall, but it gives a new perspective on what that terror means. I had jumped off the edge, and then, at the very last moment, something reached out and caught me in midair. That something is what I define as love. It is the one thing that can stop a man from falling, the one thing powerful enough to negate the laws of gravity." Paul Auster (Moon Palace)

Sunday, November 26, 2023

A famous researcher predicts divorce with 91% accuracy

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Matt Schnuck

@mattschnuck

22 de nov

A famous researcher predicts divorce with 91% accuracy.

He invented a game to protect against the #1 relationship killer.

Here it is (in 3 minutes): Actor Jonah Hill has a new Netflix documentary (Stutz) about a famous therapist.The film details the tools Jonah learned from Dr. Phil Stutz that changed his life.

Dr. Stutz believes gratitude is the only emotion that can cut through the black cloud of negative thoughts.

Another famous psychologist, Dr. John Gottman, revealed that Contempt was the most predictive pattern that killed a relationship over time.

Contempt is criticism with an air of superiority.

But Contempt was revealed to have an antidote: Gratitude.

Gratitude is a magic emotion.

When you feel gratitude, you can’t feel anger or sadness at the same time.

Gratitude is fantastic for your health.

And it is especially powerful to receive. As Dr. Andrew Huberman points out: Counter to what most believe, the major positive effects of gratitude (which are many, significant & impact psychology & physiology) mainly stem from receiving gratitude not giving it… or from observing others helping. That’s what the data show anyway.

Either way, give thanks!

Gratitude Tennis creates a structure where everyone involved has a chance to receive it.

The game works at home with family and friends.

It even works on zoom with remote work colleagues.

With Gratitude Tennis, I’ve never seen a game finish without wall-to-wall smiles.

Good luck.

To my friends in the US, may your holidays have more gratitude and less contempt. That was my breakdown of one of my favorite science-based games. If you enjoyed it or learned something, share the post and follow me @mattschnuck for more in future!

Thursday, April 20, 2023

John Steinbeck, "The Winter of Our Discontent" - Páscoa 6

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John Steinbeck, "The Winter of Our Discontent" - Páscoa 5

John Steinbeck, "The Winter of Our Discontent" - Páscoa 3

John Steinbeck, "The Winter of Our Discontent" - Páscoa 4

John Steinbeck, "The Winter of Our Discontent" - Páscoa 1

John Steinbeck, "The Winter of Our Discontent" - Páscoa 2

Friday, March 24, 2023

Via para auto-extinção - episódio 4

Eu não compreendo coisa alguma do que vejo neste lugar. Olho lentamente à minha volta e digo para mim próprio: eu não compreendo coisa alguma desta mesa, eu não compreendo coisa alguma desta cadeira, eu não compreendo coisa alguma desta mão, eu não compreendo coisa alguma deste pé (etc.). Olho um pouco mais além e digo para mim próprio: eu não compreendo coisa alguma daquela porta, eu não compreendo coisa alguma daquele corpo, eu não compreendo coisa alguma daquele quadro, eu não compreendo coisa alguma daquele candeeiro, eu não compreendo coisa alguma daquela casa (etc.). Nenhuma ordem ou distinção é feita entre os tipos de coisas. É para tudo o que vejo. Não questionar a adequação do que quer que seja para a aplicação da ideia. Não são exercícios de julgamento. Fazer isto duas vezes por dia, de preferência de manhã e à noite por um período máximo de um minuto e com uma sensação de lazer.